Do Asians value sex in the same way that westerners do?
For many in the west, bad times in the bedroom can often lead to a crumbling relationship. Many of us in the USA (and probably more so in Europe) measure the overall health of a relationship by the number of times, well, we get it on.
What about in Asia? Is sex really that important?
I mean, we’ve all heard about how young people in Japan supposedly lost interest in having sex. Even before that, “the herbivore man” popped up in Japan and became not only a domestic sensation, but an internationally recognized new species. These Japanese men can’t be bothered to walk out their door, woo a woman and try to bed her–I mean, geez, that’s so much work. What can a woman do that some good porn and your virtual date Natsumi on the Nintendo DS can’t do?
Japan is usually bullied by the international community for being a sex-less and neurotic country–but what about its neighbors?
While doing research at work, I stumbled upon this study.
“45% of women in China would rather give up sex for a month than their cell phone.”
That’s almost half of all women in China giving up sex to send WeChat messages and play angry birds!
And really, if this survey were to be conducted in Japan or Korea I doubt that the results would vastly differ.
This is a stark contrast to their Brazilian counterparts. In Brazil, 20% of women get pissed at the mere fact that their man brings a cell phone or tablet INTO bed!
The Modern Chinese Relationship
In a country where marriages are usually decided by number of properties and the amount of zeroes in the man’s annual salary, it’s not that surprising to find that sex ranks low in terms of importance. Sometimes I even wonder if sex is just used for the sole purpose of fulfilling the duty of giving birth to a child for each respective set of parents. Then it’s done. Over. Phew, no more sex for us!
My Chinese friends aren’t very open about their sex life, but for some reason I can’t imagine them really rocking the mattress. When I talk to many of my Chinese girlfriends, they chat to me about sex like its some horrible chore they have to do–like the dishes. Even in Japan, my fellow co-workers and classmates would complain about their boyfriends wanting sex on a bi-weekly basis and how it was too much. No wonder their husbands are flocking to the host bars.
Anyway, was a bit shocked about this study. I’m always amazed at how glued Chinese people are to their tablets and cell phones, but I guess even sex can’t lure them away from their online shopping and weibo.